WHAT NOT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY

"Because they provoked his spirit, so that he spake unadvisedly with his lips." Psalm 106:33

 

 

Most people think that the problems in their lives are caused by other people and external circumstances. They are shocked when they are told that they are the primary creator of everything that happens to them. They want others to change. They want the world to change. But they do not want to change the way they speak.

 

What you say has a way of affecting others. What you say also have a way of affecting you. Nevertheless, what other people say to you can damage you if you don't cultivate the habit of protecting your spirit from the words of men. The bible says offence will surely come but you have got to possess your soul with patience by not allowing what people say to you provoke you in a manner that will cause you to speak unadvisedly with your lips.

 

We live in a world where it is impossible not to meet and work with difficult people. However, it is important we protect our spirit from provocation from men such that we don't find ourselves speaking unadvisedly with our lips.

 

Nothing has wrecked many families and destroy many marriages than an angry response to a verbal insult. The war of words has torn countries apart, set business empire ablaze, ruin people's esteem and forced many to commit suicide. Words spoken in anger made many lose their jobs, turn die hard lovers to sworn enemies, set children against their parents and forced domestic violence. One of the greatest damage we can unleash upon people is known as verbal abuse. It can be on your employee. Physical wounds can be easily cured than emotional wounds. Most of us are still under the weight of the wrong words spoken into our lives at childhood.

 

You may not be able to control what people say to you. But you can control your response to what they say. When you take complete control of your words,you take control over every other aspects of your life.

 

Never allow the insult and abuse you receive from people provoke you to lash back with your tongue or speak unadvisedly. Moses was a perfect leader with a burning desire to lead his followers to the promise land but just one wrong word from him as a result of provocation from the Isrealites made him fall out of favour with God. This incident changed the course of his life and God didn't allow him enter the promise land.

 

There are five things you should not do when you are angry and they are listed below:

• Don't Spoil Things
• Don't Insult Each Others' Family
• Dont  hurt Yourself
• Don't use foul languages on each other.
• Don't throw objects at each other.

 

However there are also two things you can do  do to save yourself from reacting violently to people when they talk rudely to you. You either keep your mouth shut or you walk away.

 

Silence can never be misquoted. Walking away also help you to cool down, relax your mind and save yourself the trouble of doing damage control. Your reaction can damage your relationship or destroy a trust that has been built for years.

 

We need to get to a place where we become free from the effect of  wrong words released to us from people. You may not be able to take back a word harshly spoken but you can put a watch over what you say by not responding. You are wiser if you don't reply for there is much power and wisdom in quietness. We also need to get to a place where we consciously stop using our words to hurt others. A soft answer can melt the toughest of heart.

 

One prayer I strongly believe can help us is the prayer of the psalmist in Psalm 141:3 which says "Set a watch , O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips."

 

I strongly believe that if this prayer is offered up with all seriousness, it can assist us to change in the areas where we need to change in the way we speak.

 

Kindly share.

Moses Abiola

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